Book excerpt: Nothing makes more sense than a good relationship, and yet somehow nothing is more confusing than trying to get in, and stay in, one. Dating can sometimes feel like a battle ground, where two people show up but only one person, at best, walks away unscarred. But does it really have to be so taxing? Do we do it to ourselves? And what elementary, easily avoidable mistakes do we make that result in relationships so twisted that they would put Pilates-practicing-pretzels to shame? As you read this book, pay attention especially to the points that resonate with you most, making you re-think your approach to dating. By devoting yourself to implementing a few of these changes, you will find that your relationships become instantly easier, smoother, and a lot more enjoyable.