Book excerpt: "As men and women have come to Bernard for spiritual counseling and advice, he's learned patterns of behavior that are repeated time and again. After almost four decades of preaching, teaching, and counseling, he's seen that while every situation is unique, people's behaviors and consequences are amazingly consistent. With this in mind, Bernard has developed a ... system for understanding how couples relate to each other. Maturity, decisiveness, consistency, and strength--these are the four things [Bernard feels that] women want and need most from a man"--