Book excerpt: As a gifted psychic, Deborah Graham is able to read people's auras. As such, she doesn't look at you; she looks in you. And in her decades of helping people find true and lasting love, she coaches her clients to do the same: to look past the outward fa cades that people project to the world, and to look inward, starting with themselves. By stepping her clients through what she calls a "spiritual enema," she helps purge them of past issues and baggage so that they are open and ready for real love. By putting their true selves forward, they will pave the way for a true psychic match. In her debut book, Deborah Graham shares the tongue in cheek no-holds-barred advice as well as her tried-and-true relationship rules: How to tell a psychic match from a physical one, and how to expand your awareness to what you need energetically in a life partner; How to use the dating rule of 3s: 3 dates to see if there is a match and 3 months of monogamy before sex; How to avoid the biggest first date saboteurs (leave your cell phone in the car; opt for a zoo, not a bar; and resist information overload) Why many people miss the most glaring red flags and how to listen to your intuition; How to know when it's time to say good-bye.