Book excerpt: When all that we are using is "lets agree to disagree" or "if it's too hot in the kitchen..," it is time for a simple and proactive alternative for moderating our own disputes. Based on six rules of engagement, Rethink Perfect creates a COMMON & SANE space for us to share real thoughts, feelings & our latest concepts. Like the protocols and Black Box of an airplane, Rethink Perfect allows us to monitor our conversations before, during and after to reduce the frequency and magnitude of our inevitable disputes.