Book excerpt: Wren Waters knows that most women who are married to alcoholics live in the constant mental state of "should I stay? I need to leave." As the days turn into months, the months into years, no decision becomes a tragic decision. When a woman finally looks up from the years lost to trying to mitigate life with a compulsive drinking, she often feels it's "too late." Too late to be happy. Too late to embrace her life. Too late to live her dreams. "Leaving 101" is not about leaving today, tomorrow or necessarily at all. It's about arresting the erosion of your soul that is the eventual by product of living with someone else's alcoholism. It's about learning to live more consciously - rather than reactively - so that you regain control and power in your own life. It's about working to create a life that one day makes it your choice as to whether you stay or go.