Book excerpt: Love After Life first describes their relationship and the situation William found himself in after Irene passed away, then goes directly into what he calls "the process," a short list of easy affirmation-style techniques. He credits this process - along with Irene's help from the other side and a few supportive books on the afterlife - with moving him through a rather dramatic transformation from broken and despairing to a having that real sense, once again, of being whole and fulfilled with his soul-mate."For those of us who cannot move on from a relationship but rather must move forward with them, somehow, after they die, perhaps this book can help," Murray says. "Letting go of pain in this situation can be very scary when you feel it's your only connection to the person that matters the most to you, the person that makes you feel whole and complete. Even while it was destroying me, I felt like that pain was my connection to her, my tribute to our love, and the idea of letting it go felt worse than having it."The only way I was able to gradually move past the grief was to also gradually become aware of her presence and her efforts to reconnect with me. As this connection grew, my grief and my reasons for wanting to hold on to that pain slowly dissipated. What has now actually come to pass from the process I describe in Love After Life, just seven months after she crossed over, is something I could not believe possible in my time of grief."At best, I had hoped to maybe achieve a manageable pain I could live through for the rest of my life. I never expected to achieve a state of joy, happiness and, in some ways, an even better, more intimate relationship with my wife. We accomplished this without the use of any mediums or any daunting activities like out-of-body or near death experiences - just reading, keeping a journal, and faithfully employing the affirmation and intention techniques described in the book."This is not a 'fake it until you make it' system," Murray explains. "This is a process of tuning out of your grief frequency/vibration and tuning in to the frequency/vibration of your loved one on the other side. It is my view that this process moves you away from the pain state and back into the loving and joyful state you share with your loved one, making real contact and communication between the two of you easier, more natural and more frequent."