Book excerpt: A book that examines the unhealthy Struggle Love ideology promoted to black women. Black women are facing a truly unique yet harmful situation within the black community. Has everyone been right about black women needing to open their options? Black women deserve the same love and loyalty that they give, and what the Struggle Love ideology does is ignore the needs of black women and places the focus on loving unhealthy men. It's time that we examine the who, what, and why of the Struggle Love ideology and fight against it. A healthy relationship involves giving and receiving, but the idea promoted is that black women do all the giving and wait until a later time to receive. When low-value males create the standard for love, it is usually based on unrealistic ideas that do not consider the feelings and needs of a black woman. Black women can no longer allow low-value males to feed them poison disguised as love. We need to talk about the dysfunction and fight against it at all costs.