Book excerpt: The topic of spiraling conflict and what happens to us when we are in conflict fascinates everyone equally. The reaction is then thoughtfulness and self-reflection. Everyone has their own conflicts and therefore the topic is close to us. Conflicts are usually stressful and therefore we wish for explanations and ways out. · What dynamics do conflicts take on and how do they develop? · What happens to us when we enter the spiral of conflict. · How does our thinking, our view of things and our interests change? · What does the conflict do to us and how do we get out of the vortex? That is what this book is about. It is based on scientific findings from psychology and conflict research.