Book excerpt: Sexed (Sex’d) - Hardwired by Nature –Evolving by Choice is a first of a kind book, about the sexual hardwiring of the heterosexual male. While shining a spotlight on some of the predicaments of heterosexual male sexuality, it takes a deep archeological dive into the meeting place of sex, consciousness, biology and intimacy .In so doing it offers a granular look at the impact of our sexual hardwiring on our lived experience as men, far beyond comedy and caricature or the superficial conversations society has thus far offered us. Sexed – offered both as a reference for therapists and a personal study guide for the curious and evolving, and brings the reader closer to a more crystalized sense of sexual self-agency, access to intimacy and the opportunity to continue to bring the best possible version of himself to his relationship and the world. Of course women readers can benefit too by gaining insight into the development and inner workings of the heterosexual man’s mind and a broader understanding as to why the hardwiring and its impact has proven to be somewhat trans historical and transcultural .