Book excerpt: The words that are the course of most relationships are: life, love, loss, healing, hope and happiness. Grieving is part of this process. We don’t get over grief, we get through it. The loss of a loved one becomes a part of who we are. We have to learn how to restructure our lives rather than retreat from life. This does not happen in six months or a year, it happens over a life time. It is a long continuum of joy and hardship. What attributes from our loved one will we now make a part of us? What lessons have been learned? How can we integrate these lessons and apply them to our everyday life? Remembering the humor, the love, the good times, as well as the difficult times, can help us through days when we are feeling a little lost. Often we edit our memories to provide us with the comfort or laughter that we need during this time. It is my wish that you will fi nd some healing, hope and happiness knowing that others have gone before you, not just surviving, but are able to have a producti ve life. Remember, life is for the living and now is a good ti me to start. Peace Joanne