Book excerpt: Healing the Wounded Child The wounded child cannot be kept separate from you. If s/he is in fear, you need to love the one in fear. You must be willing to feel her pain. This is a sacred journey through fear to love. You must learn to approach the child, not as a judgmental parent, but as a loving one. For only love releases the pain. Only love gently brings the darkness into the light. The process of recovery does not end until there is no one left to blame or shame, including yourself. It does not end until you can see the light behind your shadow. It is time now to take the little child into your arms and rock her and speak to her softly the words of love s/he needs to hear. Do not be afraid of her anger or her pain but remember that all s/he wants is love. and that is the only gift you can offer her.