Book excerpt: When Someone You Love Drinks Too Much offers help to the families and friends of alcoholics. But the focus of the book is not problem drinkers, but the lives, needs, behaviors, and attitudes of those who are involved with them. Assuring family and friends that they cannot change their problem drinkers, the author urges them to seek to change themselves. He offers principles and strategies for improving ways of relating to problem drinkers. In addition to providing psychological and social coping skills, the author shows families and friends how to surrender their pain and concern over the drinker to the Holy Spirit, who is the real source of recovery for all involved.