Book excerpt: Everything we encounter can help us see who we are, if we know how to look. Our clearest mirrors, and most difficult challenges, are often other people---those wonderful, nagging, kind, selfish, thoughtful, lazy, sweet, arrogant people. Becoming aware that what we see in others is a part of who we are is the first and most powerful step on the journey of self-discovery. This is not a typical how-to book on solving your relationship problems. The focus here is awareness, responsibility, clarity and freedom.