Book excerpt: A powerful, raw story that is both unique and relatable showing us how to close the gap between the men we wish to be and how we are actually behaving. It's a courageous look at the doubts and fears we've learned not to talk about, and a reminder that together we can create a stronger, healthier understanding of what 'manhood' really means. Three things I know to be true: Masculinity isn't toxic There are a lot of good men in this world I can always be a better man After three tragic words from a homicide detective changed my life, I found myself standing in front of the mirror morning after morning, shaking my head and saying "something's gotta change, something's gotta change." It was only when I looked at myself and added "maybe it's you" that things really started to come together. If you've ever found yourself muttering those words, then this book is for you. From stories of the escalating drug- and danger-fueled adventures of my misguided youth to my personal and professional triumphs and tragedies, I share with you 32 of the most powerful lessons I have learned. I explore the impact that emotion has on human behavior and the importance of allowing men to simply slow down and feel. These entertaining, inspiring, real-life stories will help you connect with your sense of purpose, allow you to create stronger relationships, and offer you practices you can implement right now.