Book excerpt: [Content] All about the authors; Introduction; Talking with your relative; Becoming a detective: problem solving; The 4 A's: anxiety, anxiety, anger, and aggression; Why won't she take a bath; Taking the stress out of dressing; Eating; Mouth care; When you gotta go: helping a relative in the bathroom; Over and over again: repetitive behaviors; There's no place like home: when your relative wants to go home; Walking, pacing, wandering, or exercising; When you don't see things the same way: paranoia, delusions and hallucinations; And hours to go before we sleep: sleep and sundowning; Physical intimacy and sexual behavior; Glossary; Resources.