Book excerpt: Determined Means: Going from Victim to Victor speaks about demeaning and abusive behaviors in all environments and in all walks of life as it relates to all types of abuse. This book addresses the habits and mindsets of the victim, as well as the characteristics and habits of the abuser. In outlining the process of healing, the mindset and determination of the victim to survive and be successful through practicing safe measures and God’s Word are emphasized along with what “in our nature” causes us to sin. This book instructs us as individuals how to endure trauma and embrace healing and safety measures. As with any victim, they realize it becomes increasingly more difficult to trust others and hold on to sanity during times of great suffering, pain and abuse. We begin to doubt our self worth, allow others to dictate everything to us, value other peoples’ opinion over our own. These are just a few of the issues we wrestle with daily in the complexity of abuse. I struggled with all of these issues most of my life. One human being should never have control over another, especially in unhealthy ways. This book distinguishes the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships, habits and boundaries and why we need to put them into place. These are the most significant barriers to healthy relationships and without them often give the perpetrator “mixed signals”. We can do all we can and still experience tragedy. As you read this book and learn the “Psychology” of our existence and creation, you will understand the need for this “real life safety net” pertinent to your life as a whole.