Book excerpt: From before each of us was born, and up to a young age, our experiences of the world and of our parents shaped us in ways we do not even realise. Our brains were not developed enough to make sense of our early lives and so these experiences become unresolved, unconscious memories. Our responses to situations and events are often unconscious reflexes we devise to protect ourselves. As adults, this can lead us to repeat unwanted patterns that prevent us achieving what we really want. This book reveals the powerful, invisible waves of influence that inform our actions, bind us to the past and hold us back in our present. Simple but effective exercises provide the tools to identify exactly how our actions today are connected to our early childhood experiences and our relationships with our parents, as well as to past generations, history and culture. It also shows us what we can do about it now!