Book excerpt: Has your partner become your everything? That’s probably not a good thing. In many modern relationships, our partners have become our everything—best friend, lover, career mentor, co-parent, gym buddy, fellow food critic, and TV-binge-watching-partner. And if you were in a relationship during the pandemic, you did literally everything together. All. Day. Long. The further we go down this road, the more our relationships start to feel (and taste) like a lukewarm bowl of porridge. No salt. No sugar. No delicious apple-berry granola crumble. Just a plain old bowl of oats served up three times a day. And sure, oats are reasonably nutritious, but they are also really boring. After spending so much time together we have, like magnets, rubbed up against each other for so long that we have completely lost the powerful energy and sexual attraction we once had. But you don’t need to settle for a life devoid of desire and passion. It’s time to stop settling. So put down that sad little spoon and stop eating that gruel. It’s time to feel your sharp teeth, your claws, and the fire in your chest. In Feed the Tiger, Free the Dragon, you will learn to create more excitement and sexual tension in your relationship through the practice of polarity. The natural law of polarity states that people with opposite sexual energy produce an attractive force between them, while people with the same energy produce a neutral or repulsive force. In other words, opposites attract. And the larger the energy distance between two people, the greater the attraction. Using the narrative of her broken marriage as a guide, Harper teaches us how to master the principles of polarity and how to embrace our inner Tiger or inner Dragon. By understanding and embracing your authentic uniqueness and learning to counterintuitively push away from your partner, you will find more love, lust, pleasure, freedom, and respect. Yes, that’s a lot. But isn’t it time to start living the most fulfilled version of our lives? It’s time to find our happiness.