Book excerpt: Binyamin did as he watched friends and siblings go "off the derech," certain he would soon follow. While the people around him cast blame on parents, teachers, rabbis, the system, hypocrisy in the community and so on, Binyamin wanted to know the real reason, or at least a solution - and the solution was not blame. What he discovered shocked him. After years of fighting his way through multiple religious systems, much soul searching, and speaking with hundreds of parents, educators and youth around the world, he is sharing his discoveries.