Book excerpt: "They" told you that you need to be thin and beautiful; warned you that if you try to be strong, or take control, you'll be shrill, bossy, a ballbreaker. Well, screw that. Bates is here to expose the truth about the pressures surrounding body image, the trials of social media, and all the other lies society has told us. The result is no-nonsense advice on sex, social media, mental health, and sexism that young women face in their everyday life.