Book excerpt: The loss of someone you hold dear may be beyond your control; being paralyzed by grief is not. In 2014, Dr. Lucy Hone, the trailblazer in the field of Resilient Grieving, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow after her twelve-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By developing—and following—the strategies of Resilient Grieving shared here, she found a proactive way to manage her grief, embrace life again, and discover profound meaning. In this completely updated and expanded second edition, she continues to shift the narrative on how to grieve. With new scientific evidence, Dr. Hone demonstrates the inadequacy and potential harm of Kübler-Ross’s Five Stages model of grief. In its place, Dr. Hone shares the best of contemporary grief advice—offering tools to handle emotions, manage relationships, and get the support you need—replacing helplessness with hope and a sense of control. Here, also, are all-new, practical insights into how to keep your loved one’s memory alive. Dr. Hone has never been more convinced that the tools of Resilient Grieving can transform the ways that readers approach grief, helping them draw on their innate ability to cope with loss and become active participants in their grief journey—and, in time, get back to living happy, healthy, meaningful lives, just as she has done.