Book excerpt: Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 If you’re not sure whether or not you’re in a relationship with a man, the best way to find out is to define it. This means having the talk, and it can be scary, but it’s important. #2 If your boyfriend doesn't make you his plus one at important events, it's a clear indication that he doesn't consider you his girlfriend. Have a conversation with him and explain that you want to be his social steady, not his side girl. #3 When you try to act like a guy's girl you run the risk of being treated like one of the guys. A man who offers sweet nothings in the bedroom but only fist bumps when outside it doesn't see you as a girlfriend, but a girl who's willing to sleep with him. #4 If a guy is thinking about other women or coming on to them in front of you, he’s not your boyfriend. If he’s trying to justify this by claiming that he feels bad for your roommate, he’s delusional.