Book excerpt: Nurtured Heart is an approach for guiding and supporting all children-particularly, intense and challenging children-in living out their greatness. One of the first steps toward implementing this approach is learning to train our attention on and connect with children around what we DO want rather than what we DON'T want. As both positive and neutral behaviors are reflected to the child as illustrating their many great qualities, the child becomes convinced the the MORE they were searching for through negative behaviors is now easily obtainable through positive choices. The child begins to joyfully live out greatness.