Book excerpt: Experiencing the Beauty of Sexual Intimacy Relationship expert Gary Smalley, best-selling author of The Blessing and The Language of Love, finally tackles a topic that's on everybody's mind; sex. With his pastor and friend, Ted Cunningham, Smalley nudges past our hang-ups and sacred cows to answer the question, How can I have the best sex of my life? The answer may surprise you. Did you know that great sex begins with security, which leads to intimacy, which leads to incredible sex? It's only as we take an honest look at the differences between men and women and find ways to bridge the gap that we can create the security and intimacy that great sex needs to flourish. In The Language of Sex, Smalley and Ted Cunningham peel back the layers of mystery and show us how to do just that.