Book excerpt: The Ten Commandments of Divorce beckons us to change our perception of the divorce process. It exposes readers to the possibility of a new paradigm we can adopt and follow - one that allows us to come out of our marriage with the same intentions, grace, and dignity as we had entering into it. As Donna Martini takes us on a journey of introspection and forgiveness through the process of Positive Manipulation tm, we learn to turn such negative emotions as fear, anxiety and anger into respect, empathy and amnesty. It is only then, she tells us, that the process of healing can begin. This book is about love and the compassionate energy it carries with it. It promotes accountability and responsibility for the paths we have chosen, as it gently prompts us as parents to lead by example. Each chapter will help you uncover your true potential as it offers the solace and guidance needed to handle even the most difficult aspects of living as a single parent. "You made the decision to marry," Donna tells us, "and for whatever reason, it didn't work. Now you made the decision to divorce. For the sake of the kids, let's make sure it's done right."